Finding my way through my fiction and through my garden
By Meredith Cole
The other day a friend remarked that it was funny, seeing
that I was a mystery writer who killed people in my books, that most of my Facebook
posts were pictures of flowers in my garden.
It didn’t seem strange to me. Gardens are, after all,
bloodthirsty places. Plants, bugs, and animals are all battling for supremacy,
and plants are always turning brown and dying. Gardening is also full of
disappointments, so it’s certainly not for the faint of heart or the squeamish.
I knew I wanted a garden when we lived in New York.
Surrounded by concrete, we dreamed of having a green space of our own. But I
didn’t know how obsessed I would get with plants and flowers once I had my own
garden. Fifteen minutes quickly turns into hours as I hack at weeds or dig up
our lawn to put in more flowerbeds.
Gardening is a great contrast to writing. I’m on my feet
rather than sitting in a chair, and I’m outside instead of inside. I may be
stuck in my story, but there’s always plenty to do in the yard.
But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that
gardening and writing have quite a lot
in common, too.
They take patience.
Did I mention that gardening wasn’t for the scared and
timid? It isn’t. And neither is writing. It always takes way longer than you
think it will to finish a book, and then far too many rewrites before your
editor/agent/readers say it’s good and you feel that it’s really finished.
Like gardening, I start various projects only to see them
wither on the vine. It wasn’t the right spot or the right time for the idea or
plant to flourish. If you don’t want to fall into complete despair, you move on
to another idea or try a different plant in that cursed spot. Eventually you
learn something or you get lucky.
Experts are helpful.
Sometimes.
I used to think that if I could just find the perfect
writing book or class, I would somehow figure out how to write a novel. But I
never did. I just had to keep trying things and figuring it out myself.
Gardening experts are useful and can share their expertise
and advice. But in order to figure out what works in your yard, you just have
to try things. Sometimes you’ll fail, but when you have a success you feel like
a genius. Or like you have a green thumb.
You have to do it for
yourself.
Only a few times in the past few years have I looked at my
yard with total satisfaction and been eager to show it off. The rest of the
time I see the flaws and I’m busy trying to fix bare patches in my yard. So if
I relied on the admiration of strangers to make gardening worthwhile for me, I
would have quit after that first spring so long ago. Same with writing. You
have to develop a thick skin because not everyone will love what you write. You
can’t write simply to hear applause.
I love seeing crocuses bloom and trees flower, and plants
thrive. But I realize that I love digging in the dirt and dreaming of what I’m
going to plant even more. In the end, it’s the act of gardening and writing
that give me pleasure in the end and inspire me to give up hours of my evenings
and weekends
9 comments:
Great analogies, Meredith! I love gardening, too, but haven't lived in a good climate for it in way too long. Someday I'll have another garden!
This piece is very insightful. I love the way you smoothly draw the comparisons and deal the pithy bits of advice. You should enlarge this and send it to Writers Digest... Thelma Straw, MWA-NY
Finding your own way really resonates. I think that's true with a lot in life, certainly with writing.
Meredith - Welcome!!! what a terrific piece this is. And oh my, the flowers! They're gorgeous, as is your writing.
I appreciate you stopping by.
Gardening, fiction, life in general, it all boils down to the same thing: You should enjoy the journey, because the desired ending isn't guaranteed. Unless we're talking about my garden. Then the ending is guaranteed. Dead flowers. Dead grass. But a whole lot of living weeds.
Thanks all of you for dropping by today! It was really fun to write about two of my favorite things--gardening and writing. Kaye's blog has always been so inspiring!
You're so right, Barb--gardens and stories don't always end up exactly the way we want them to. But they're both so much fun for me to try to do!
Very nice piece. Of course, I don't write or garden! Still, I'm considered a tenacious reference librarian, never give up or quit is my motto.
That's a great motto, Patty, for anyone! I always say I'm too stubborn to give up--which explains a lot of my garden projects, I'm afraid...
Lovely post, Meredith! I've read both your books and enjoyed them. You might add that like a garden and a novel, others might not like what you create. It's hard to have someone-- even someone who means well-- that this plot device doesn't work or that bottle tree is just tacky when you personally think it's a delight. The hardest part is deciding honestly in they have a point or not. Sometimes the answer is yes (I really should have made that bed rounded instead of square) and sometimes the answer is no (I like my bottle tree). But judging from your glorious garden, you have no such problems!
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